Dear Princess Darby,

My parents are planning to stay with us during their first visit at Thanksgiving. They don't know that my room-mate is also is my partner. Should we tell them when they're here, or avoid bringing it up at all? We may need a smoke screeen!



Dear Smoke Screen,

Although Thanksgiving is right around the corner, you still have time to contemplate what action to take before the turkey's on the table.

What is the situation? You're not married and living with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Or,is the situation that you and your partner are the same gender, and your parents aren't aware of your relationship?

In either case, you and your partner need to decide if you're both ready and wish to share your relationship with your parents. If not, and they're surprised, your "goose may be cooked" for Thanksgiving!

If you can't decide at this juncture, you could make arrangements for their stay at a hotel as your treat, and take them out for the holiday.

You'll be able to gauge the right time to share your relationship without the need of a "smoke screen". You don't want the task of putting out any fires during the holidays. Enjoy the holidays!

Princess Darby