A person I dated once just contacted me after several months of no communication. He wrote...
CT: Hey...I'm gonna ask u something, and of course u can choose not to respond as usual...Did I do something wrong? Is there specifically something wrong with me?
Me: Honestly I don't even know who this is since I lost all my numbers. Who is this?
CT: It's CT...went on a date in March which I thought was great, never really heard from u again until I ran into you at Sidetrack last Monday...
Me: Well it's my fault for not being honest to tell you I was no longer interested. I don't like disappointing people and would rather act like an ass to get away with it. It just seem that it was not a good match. I don't want to waste you time.
CT: Well that would have been easier to me than acting like u don't know me...I'm a big boy and can handle "disappointment" but thanks for telling me I guess.
I was a jerk for doing that back then. Though I could only say that it always feels so difficult to break the "bad news" to someone. Of course, I've been on the other side. But I'm still not sure if I'd rather have the person tell me straight up or brush me off and be a jerk about it. Telling him now seems so easy to do but like he said, it could have been easier for him then. It's done I suppose...I wish during moments like these from now on that I could just have the courage to be up front. I still wonder why it was such a difficult thing for me to do.
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I really appreciate the honesty it took to write this blog! It's not easy admitting to the world that you messed up. (Something I've had to do on a number of occasions!)
I think honesty is always the best approach. The older I get the less time I want to waste on the "What’s he thinkin" type stuff. Dates are perfect for getting to know someone better. If there is a fit; there’s a fit. If not, then it’s a good idea to shoot the text or email that says “I had a great time with you and I’m glad to have a new friend!”
Now, if he’s a total moron and still doesn’t get it; he’s not worth you governing your tongue. Tell him you’re not interested in dating. I am sure this chap who hailed you is cute and nice but that ONE date was in March. EIGHT MONTHS AGO! Logic suggests that you would have called/text/emailed him by now if you were interested in another date.
So, what are you up to this weekend luv?
~Bill Pritchard
I was out and about last night with my whippinpoofs. Took two straight couples with me around boystown. Tomorrow and Sunday is CSB camp...kinda like summer camp but for two days. We're learning lots of cheer, dance, and twirling. Should be exciting....aside from the fact that it's on Alsip, IL. Where the heck is that????
CSB raised $2,713.25 for FCAN (Families and Children AIDS Network) over the Halloween weekend. CSB finished the year with a total raised of $11,671.88. Our first year over $10k. Over the past 6 years CSB has raised and donated over $41,000. Thank you to everyone who has dropped a donation into our blue spirit buckets. See you in 2010 CHEER DANCE TWIRL TO SPREAD THE CHEER!
It's about time to hibernate. I love this season. Everything is so calm and quiet and life is generally on the down low. It reminds me back in my homeland during typhoon season. LOL...I like the smell outside right after it rains. It smells organic, clean, and fresh. The first snow in Chicago gives me the same experience. Cuddled up in a jacket and scarf, I enjoy talking a walk downtown.
Finally the heater's on in my apartment. And now it sounds like the Titanic's orlop deck. At least, I'm warm.
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I certainly don't think that human sexuality is as black and white as gay and straight. I understand how easy it is to categorize sexuality between gay and straight. It certainly makes it easier for everyone to define themselves. Why is there a need to define oneself to a norm? Is it really that difficult to understand that there could be a variety of sexualties out there? And just because our bodies are defined by two major distiguishable genders, why should sexuality and human relationships be bounded by that limitation.
When a gay person says to me, "I don't believe he is bisexual, he's just in transition." or "He can only be straight or gay and that's it." I think it's a bit hyprocritical of the gay person when he himself is not open-minded and tolerant.
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